I read a quote yesterday that I believe was from Dan Gilbert. “We don’t like work, we only like the result and the effect. We don’t like the ‘doing’ very much.”
Some of us are no strangers to hard work. If you’ve been following this blog, you know I’m in this camp. Even so, it’s not something I enjoy. I’ve said my job was a “foot in the door” job – that’s the result. The effect was showing that I could do a difficult job I didn’t like for a year, which presumably indicated I was a dependable employee.
The more I look at that job, the more I scratch my head.
When I compare that to my life coaching and spiritual work, that’s when things change. I generally enjoy the doing for those pursuits. What’s the difference? I want to be challenged mentally, emotionally, creatively, and spiritually. I have questions. I want answers. If the price of those answers is work, I’m there. I like word and puzzle games more than any other kind. There is something uniquely satisfying about writing a blog post and creating something from thin air. I already have a bachelor’s degree, yet I still take classes and courses to learn new things.
I don’t want to be challenged physically. I’m just not suited to it. I’ll work out occasionally, but I’d much rather take a long walk than work out. Either way, it’s exercise and it can keep me fit.
And just like anything else, the more you do it, the better at it you get. The longer you can walk. The quicker you can think. The more you can understand. The deeper insights you reach. The more information you can gather, keep straight, and process.
If you can enjoy the doing, you can accomplish far more than you might imagine. I have changed so much in the last 18 months. While I still have some way to go, I can do and understand things now that I never dreamed I could. I am getting better at the things that truly matter to me: writing, learning, understanding, channeling, reading tarot cards, Reiki healing.
I’m excited about the process. Sure, it gets frustrating sometimes, but I’m excited to do the work. I’m in a place where I like the doing. That makes all the difference.
It’s not “I have to do this work.” It is “I get to do this work.”
It’s not “I can’t do this well.” It is “I am doing this better than when I first started, but I’m not where I want to be yet.”
It’s not “I’m drifting and have no idea where I’m headed.” It is “I am moving forward, and sign posts will appear to guide me, or stepping stones will appear to lead me.”
Those stepping stones and sign posts have appeared. I’m starting to get an idea of what the end results of my transitions and transformations are going to be. It’s always easier to do the work if you can get an idea of the results. It gives you something to focus on.
Find something where you can learn to enjoy the doing. You’ll be working with the tide instead of against it.
You’ll still get tired and frustrated from time to time, but it will happen less often. You’ll be far less tempted to quit. You won’t have to do the work; you’ll want to do the work.
And if you need to rest for a while, you’ll still drift in the right direction.